We’ve all been there. Come out broken, scarred and sometimes relieved from a relationship. My most enduring relationship till date has been with pizza but we may have to break up because it always goes straight to my hips without any sort of conversation at all. And if I leave it out too long, it also goes limp. So, that’s that. Sometimes these relationships end up in marriage, sometimes not. Sometimes, the marriage ends, usually when someone throws a shoe at the other person. But if you are in a marriage or have been in one, you know there are things that you can do to make it work and a curious cat on Quora asked about this. He/She asked, ‘ What is the healthiest thing you’ve done for your marriage?’ and several people pitched in with answers. I sieved through the answers and picked up the gist of the top 5 things that can make your marriage work. Read please.
- Talking. No, really talking.
If you can get your spouse to look up from their phone and actually have a conversation, this was something that all the answers explicitly said or implied. Having real conversations, discussing details, asking for advice all of that. Of course, smaller conversations about how the day went always help. But talking apparently is the thing to do.
2. Keeping the spark alive
After a few years of being married, most people think of a fruit when you say dates instead of candlelight dinners and wine. Quora says you should have date nights pretty often, setting time aside to do something together and unwind. A few users said stepping out isn’t necessary, even kicking back for some ‘our’ time at home is cool. You’re not allowed to laundry then, they were real strict about that.
3. Be a hobby hoarder
You know how there are couples who dress like each other? Yes, that’s not cute. Thought I should put it out there. A lot of the Quora answers talked about the concept of pursuing separate hobbies or interests. Each partner should be allowed to do something they enjoy, with or without the other spouse. Before you misunderstand this, your own interest cannot be devising new ways to get someone into bed. That’s not a hobby.
4. Hahaha it off
A sense of humour can go a long way in a healthy relationship. This one I can vouch for. Of course, the key here is to laugh at things together and not laugh at each other. Though even that’s allowed occasionally. Being able to see the humour in a situation can take the tension out of it and that can be really healthy. Sitting in bed, laughing at his size is not recommended though.
5. Getting a divorce.
Hey, they said it I didn’t. A couple of the users claimed getting out of the marriage was the best thing they did for the marriage. Now this may seem counter productive in an article but if the relationship is making you sick, figuratively and physically, it’s probably time to get out. Maybe in retrospect you’ll be able the see that this was the healthiest thing you did for your relationship. Maybe. Or you will pay a lot in alimony and regret it. This is not recommended by me. Just saying.
To read what was said verbatim, head here: https://www.quora.com/What-is-the-healthiest-thing-youve-done-for-your-marriage#